The Test

I rather like this idea, posing someone a question to determine how well our friendship would work.

Story time! My best friendships have been included silliness and a willingness to think outside the box. Bonus points for those who don’tย have a box. So anyway, once upon a time I had a friend with whom I could theorize and verbalize the random crap that ran through my brain on a daily basis (Buses are like Dementors; do you prefer penguins or unicorns?) and it was a good friendship because I would always get answers that pertained to the question. Co-Author and I are a bit alike in this regard, random questions and statements all over the place. And, you know, now we’re co-writing a novel so you see how well this has turned out.

And I had another friend with whom I couldย not be random, ever. If I did it would be terribly dull responses, or non-responses. I’d be made to feel like I had to Grow Up and Be Responsible to be impressive. I didn’t like this. Someone – I believe it may have been Picasso – said that drawing like an adult was easy, that drawing like a child was the difficult part, something along those lines.

Anyway, the general idea was that I like acting like a child sometimes; questioning anything that crosses my path is my favourite. (How else are you supposed to learn?)

Bearing all this in mind, my Friendship Success Question would be this:

Are you willing to be less-than-grown-up?


22 thoughts on “The Test”

  1. Silliness goes a long way in saving a bad day. Sometimes, I just crave an evening of helpless laughter and my best friends have always been able to be a catalyst for that. I think the childlike quality you desire is what creates that ability to surrender to happiness.


  2. I love that you referenced that drawing like an adult was easy, that drawing like a child was the difficult part. Life is the same way. Many adults forget what it was like to be a kid. Many adults forget that for the most part being a kid was the most fun and liberating time in their lives. The most carefree time. Why would any one of us want to forget that? Why not remember that time and incorporate it in to being an adult? Seeing through the eyes of a child and enjoying life like a child is the best way to be. Bravo on your question.


    1. That quote stuck in my head after reading it; I couldn’t resist it here.

      And yes you’re absolutely right ๐Ÿ™‚ I think maybe it’s more a case of we adults forget, because we have other things to think about, and so childhood gets relegated to a few photos and the odd ‘Remember when…?’

      Thanks for stopping by ๐Ÿ™‚


  3. If buses are like Dementors, the public transportation system in your area must really suck! (Get it? Because Dementors suck your soul out and… okay, it’s not actually funny.)

    For some reason, silly-positive friendships seem to get less and less once you reach your mid-twenties and then come back for the vengeance in your forties (at least judging by all the forty-somethings I’ve met, ever). So heads up, there might be funny randomness again in your future. Take it from someone who built a pillow fort in their living room two weeks ago.

    Btw, the Picasso quote you’re looking for might be โ€œIt took me four years to paint like Raphael, but a lifetime to paint like a child.โ€


    1. That was precisely my reasoning. Mainly said out of bitter spite one rainy evening, and at least forty minutes on the bus…

      That is very curious and I look forward to the randomness again. Pillow forts – I don’t think I’ve done those in years. May have to acquire pillows.

      Yes, that’s the one, thanks ๐Ÿ™‚


      1. Penguins stick with their families no matter what happens. They’ll protect their eggs and each others’ eggs at any cost. They’re gentle, but they can be aggressive if needed. They’ve been known to play with and teach each other as well as other animals (which is very rare for any species except primates). Plus, they’re pretty damn tough – I mean, there aren’t a lot of animals that can survive in sub-zero conditions, and look good while they’re at it (penguins actually preen quite a bit and are some of the vainest animals!).

        Now, compare that to unicorns: mythical, flighty creatures that can’t fend for themselves, if HP is to be believed. I think I know the clear winner. ๐Ÿ˜‰


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